I had the evening planned to a tee.. arranging with a former client and dear friend.. a cute transexual highflyer (Miss Hornet) to be available to skillfully assist in transforming Mr C without his prior knowledge.. we booked a luxury hotel room with dimming lighting, a queen sized bed with wrought iron bed posts and waterproof bed sheeting, mirrors, and side chaise lounge .. just perfect for what we had in mind for him.. complimented and complete with handcuffs.. riding crop.. cock harness.. collars and leashes.. pantees and skirt.. double ended dildo and blindfold.. mmm

I had organised to have Mr C arrive at precisely 11pm.. with 15 mins eta.. and Miss Hornet safely out of view.. collared and leashed.. wearing the pantees and skirt.. and with the implements neatly laid out.. I checked my reflection and patted down my black silk corset and adjusted the high boots.. I was ready..

with riding crop in hand…. I greeted him with a firm grip on his soon-to-be-in-sweet-agony balls.. whacking his unsuspecting hot ass from behind.. he jerked back slightly.. a low groan escaping thru clenched lips.. "How is my lil slutboy this evening?" I asked.. cradling his chin in my hands.. tracing over his body.. looking at him square in the eyes.. with a devilish grin.. "Deliciously anticipating your mistreatment Miz" he whimpered in response.. "Good boy" I was in a ravenous mood and preceeded to inspect him as he stood in the centre of the room.. circling him slowly.. my gaze interrogatively staring at him up and down.. the humiliation and shame evident as he hung his head not daring to look at Miz.. pressing my glossy lips against his ear very quietly whispering.. "I shall be having so much fun with you tonight dear slutboy"

Guiding him to the main ensuite.. I had him sat down.. and his eyes immediately darted to the instruments laid out beside him.. I grabbed his face and turned it towards me and struck down across his lap.. "no peeking lil one".. "I will be describing what I will be doing as I am doing it.. for now I want you to be focused on Miz" "Yes Miz I apologise for the diversion" his face turning a bright shade of red..

I ordered he strip naked.. which he obediently complied with.. snapping on his collar and proceeded to place the harness around his throbbing semi-hard cock and balls.. explaining that this was to control his filthy urges.. handcuffing him single handedly to the bed post.. explaining he will be allowed the pleasure of being able to rub his aching steamy cunt.. and finally blindfolding him.. the fun was about to begin.. I could feel the nervous anticipation rising from his heaving body.. Mr C has been in compromising positions before.. but not like he was about to endure tonight.. I had grand plans for this skanky cunt..

rising.. I kissed him lightly on his forehead purring in his ear I would be back in a moment..

I went into the adjacent suite and summoned Miss Hornet.. she looked so lushh in her short skirt and pantees.. she immediately fell to her knees and bowed to kiss Miz’s boots.. thanking me for the invitation she was honourably bestowed with

I led her by her leash to Mr C.. who was laid back licking his lips.. trying to sense what was about to happen around him.. the atmosphere was electrifying!!

removing the leash.. I silently gestured that she climb up upon the bed and drizzle a warm golden shower on Mr C while I stood watching.. "Open your mouth lil one.. and savour the warm fluid" "mmm yes Miz thank you" Miss Hornet stood over him pulling her pantees down just passed her yummy balls and started pissing straight into his open mouth and on his face which he lapped up like a good lil whore.. drinking and slurping which instantly gave Miss a raging hard on.. taking her cock in her hands and stroking gently..

straddling Mr C’s chest on my silent orders.. I reached and removed his blindfold and took pleasure in seeing the gasping reaction of suddenly being faced with a huge hard cock in his face.. "Oh dear cuntboy.. look what I have found for you to play with" "This is Miss Hornet and she is here to see that you experience total humiliation on my orders" "so open up now and be a good lil slut and show Miz how much you desire to suck on a real cock" "I wanna see enthusiasm and how much my whorecunt can devour" "Dont you agree Miz has been very generous tonight slave?" "Oh yes Miz thank you kindly, you are most thoughtful" he replied sheepishly.. "Good boy" Turning to Miss Hornet I said "Please proceed Miss"

I stepped back and laid myself on the chaise lounge.. watching intently as Miss began sliding her massive cock down Mr C’s lungs.. "Suck on it like you would the queen lil one.. and remember tongue drawn and no hands allowed" "I desire to see deep long licks.. and want to hear the slurping sounds you utter" Miss was having fun.. repeatedly ramming the back of Mr C’s throat .. while he gagged wildly.. his stiffening cock in absolute agony encased brutally in the harness.. I was relishing in the muffled moans and gurgling from Mr C and the groaning from Miss Hornet.. together almost too much to bear.. my pantees were drenched..

Rising.. I went and stood by the bed and with the crop.. started teasing his encumbered cock.. tapping it gently as his moans increased.. "Oh you are the ultimate lil whore yes ?" "Its such a pleasure to see you enjoying yourself" "You have my permission to rub that horny cunt of yours now lil one" and with that Mr C reached down with his free hand and fingered his throbbing cumhole.. while continuing to show his cocksucking prowness.. how lushh was that scene..

Ordering Miss Hornet to stop just before she was about to blow and give Mr C a hefty dickslap with her slippery spit covered cock.. she pulled out and started whacking him across the mouth.. his rock hard pole making slimy slapping sounds as I soaked in the humiliation .. The undescribable feeling of watching Mr C swirming .. while copping a good cockwhip was so empowering and such a delite to witness..

Ordering him to flip over and assume position on all fours.. I generously removed his handcuffed hand and took his wet face in my hand and told him Miss Hornets in love with your skanky cunt and wants to fuck it while you reap your reward.. "Oh yes Miz I desire that greatly and wish to please you" I bent my ass in his face teasing him"This is for you dear slave.. stick your face between my cheeks and inhale while Miss has her way with your juicy cunt.." Spreading his cheeks wide.. Miss spat between them.. I buried Mr C’s urinated and goey face deep in my steamy assvalley.. and ordered he lick and sniff.. meanwhile.. Miss was entering his wide horny hole deep and fast.. pressing my ass harder into his face.. muffling his loud groans.. "drill your tongue into my ass slave" My dirty bitch was in such delish agony.. bucking wildly against Miss’s cock which was buried balls deep caressing his quivering asswalls.. mmmm I could even feel the vibration of his lips on my ass as he tried to squeel ..

Happy and content after cumming all over his face.. I turned around and stuffed his face into my spasming snatch and ordered he drink me.. with each brutal thrust of Miss Hornets cock his face was pushing deeper into my sodden dripping nectar.. .. I grabbed his hair and rocked against his mouth.. watching him drink .. my loud moans filling the room mingling with the deep groans of Miss Hornet as I erupted again.. flooding his face with a torrent of cumjuice..

Miss Hornet couldnt hold back and after one final vicious thrust.. she pulled out and shot her load all over Mr C’s wide gaping hole.. my GOD.. talk about the ultimate display of total domination.. I ordered Mr C hold open his gape while Miss exploded again and again.. mmmm

I wanted to witness one final act of degredation and have Mr C begging for more.. I picked up the double ended dildo and told Miss Hornet to turn around and join asses with Mr C.. I crammed one end in Mr C’s cunt and the other in Miss Hornets.. and ordered they buck against each other.. by this time I had Mr Blue Balls in acute agony.. his pathetic moaning so delightful .. whipping both asses with the riding crop as they fucked themselves silly..

I climbed over Mr C and gestured to Miss that it was time.. she removed the dildo from her cunt and Mr C’s and rolled him over.. so he was staring up into my open thighs.. my wet pussy and ass he is so fond of in his line of vision.. On my instructions.. she fed him his side of the dildo covered in her cum and his musky ass scent.. while I simultaniously pissed on him .. she then fed him the other side coated in her juices and he lapped it all up.. my piss was dribbling into his mouth as he sucked eagerly..

Deciding he required some much needed relief.. Miss released his cock from its leather studded prison and took him into her mouth.. it didnt take Mr C long to blow his load .. you could actually feel the pent up explosion releasing..

yes folks this was the ultimate domination opportunity Mr C experienced.. we had been discussing his desire to be fucked by a well hung tranny recently and fortunately for him it became a reality.. I think he is forever in debt with me now.. meaning I get to have him pleasure my ass and attend to my whims whenever I so desire.. lucky bitch

angelxx

Whatever type you are there is always room for improvement, or begin learning how to be more appealing and seductive. Studies have proven that the flirting language in which a person communicates is 55% of their appearance and body language, 38% in the style in which they speak and only 7% of what is said. WOW!!

Yet, most men have no idea when a woman is flirting with them. Seriously. Unless she walks up to them, tears her clothes off, and screams "Take me now!" most men are completely oblivious to when a woman is sending out those "attraction signals." Furthermore, I have come to the conclusion that no matter where you are walking, 85% of the people around you find the ground completely engrossing. The general aversion to eye contact amazes me.

What signals are you enamating?? Flirting is generally about making someone else feel good, giving off positive vibes, sexy body language and showing interest.

I personally am a lover of love. I love to flirt and stir the pot. Flirting for me is a way to get someone to open up, to delve, to see how much of myself I can be and to get into their head. People have forgotten what it is to be truly flirtacious.

A great flirt has an air of mystery around themselves. They can speak volumes just with their eyes. The way they stare and hold a gaze. To be alluring, one must know how to allure.

1) Compliments - Most people love compliments and giving one is always rewarding. If you make someone feel good about themselves the chances are they will feel good about you too. Sincere and somewhat original compliments will have the highest chance of success.

2) Eye contact - Direct eye contact is so powerful we normally restrict it to brief glances. Prolonged eye contact between two people indicates intense emotion. You can signal your interest in someone merely by holding their gaze for more than one second. If they maintain eye contact with you for more than one second, chances are they return your interest.

3) Body language - Most of us are quite good at controlling our expression. But while we’re busy controlling our expression, our real feelings leak out in our body language. Leaning forward, signals attentiveness and interest. Tilting the head to one side signals interest too.

Even though flirting at times is a means of expressing sexual interest, flirting can simply be entertainment, with no intention of developing a further relationship. Flirtatious encounters are of naturally short duration. It’s understood there are no serious intentions, merely an ego-boosting acknowledgement of mutual attraction.

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You keep your eyes down and say softly, “Please, Ma’am.”

Lashing you to the bench… leather cuffs biting your wrists. Your body pressing nervously against the wood. My knee sliding up between your thighs…parting them….exposing you for My whims….pressing just briefly against your heat. Stepping away I pick up two floggers, one in each hand…one is My softest. Slowly I begin to caress your back with the suede…steadily swinging back and forth lulling your skin into a soft pink and your mind into comfortable waves of submission.

Switching hands to the hard leather flogger I jolt you from your softness…popping you hard across the shoulder. Wincing you duck your head between the bars resting your cheek against the cool wood. Reaching forward I yank your head back up by the hair and bite a slow hard line down your neck marking you as Mine. I soak in all your delicious little sighs and moans. Letting go of your hair I step back and bring the flogger down over and over across your shoulders deepening the color to crimson….deepening your soft cries to harder groans. Laying My cheek against the back of your shoulder, I feel the heat of your soft shudders against My skin. I drag My nails lightly up your side and pressing the fabric of My white button down against your tender back, I slide My leg up the side of your thigh grinding barely against your ass. I step back again not touching you at all…..watching you tremble.

Bringing My whip down hard I slice into your back….whipping you again and again until you are panting and writhing….waiting for you to cry out for Me. I push you farther until you are moaning in time with every hit….until you are shaking…..gasping…..until the tears. I stop and walk in front of you cradling your face in My hands….watching your glassy eyes…stroking your cheek. I walk back behind you again. Slowly unbuttoning My shirt, I let it slide off My shoulders to the floor. Stepping close to you, I press My cool flesh to your hot skin…My breasts against your sore back. Sliding My hand down over your hip…..then lower…to feel how hot you are for Me….how wet from taking My pain. You lean your head back against My shoulder, your lips parted slightly. Leaning into you I push you hard against the bench. Your hips trapped between the wood and My hand….barely stroking you and pushing My body into the welts from My whip. Bringing you to the edge, I stop and step away.

Your body shivers as the cool air washes over it. Picking up My small cane, I drag it up the inside of your thighs slowly bringing hungry groans from you…tapping it very softly against your swollen head….then bringing it down hard across the back of your thigh. You draw in your breath fast and hold it. Slowly and deliberately I stripe you from the bottom of your ass to your knee. You jump and cry out until I get the tears I want from you. Finally taking My short cane I carefully cane the word “slut” into your ass. You feel My fingers tracing out the word and whisper “your slut, Ma’am”.

Coming back in front of you….stroking your hair…cupping your chin in My hand and bringing your eyes up to meet Mine, “Yes only Mine, little boy.” I slowly kiss away every tear….murmuring to you how proud you make Me and what a good boy you are. I walk back behind you and reach up to carefully release your restraints taking care to hold you so that you don’t fall. Sliding to the floor with you, I wrap a soft blanket over you and hold you….your head in My lap….My hands in your hair….resting together.

Crave like a junkie on the down of a three day binge.

Saturated by a hard rain of tears…..soaked to the skin.

Razor blade crawling over broken glass to glimpse a taste.

Desperate words falling incoherently from your lips.

Gasping breaths at My discretion.

Lapping up every drop I allow like a refugee.

Feeding from Me with starving devotion.

Worshiping at the honey altar.

Owned slave.

“Yes Ma’am,”

he follows Her to the backyard. As he rounds the corner he draws in a soft breath. He sees heavy chain link restraints attached to a tree.

She grins, “You were hoping for yard work, I suppose?” She watches him squirm a moment and then Her tone hardens. “Take off your clothes.” She quickly secures his wrists and chains him to the only tree in the yard with absolutely no shade from the harsh summer sun. She goes to a small table and produces a small pitcher of water and a glass which she fills a quarter of the way full. She brings the glass to his parched lips and hy drinks it desperately. “You will earn more as we go, pet.” She coos as she moves behind him. Seconds later he hears the crack of the whip. She doesn’t actually make contact but just lets the sound wash over him. He jerks and every muscle tenses as he rises up on his tip toes. She stands silently behind him until his muscles begin to slowly relax. Her whip slices through the air and into his back.

He writhes away and She says sweetly, “ Awwwwwwww……I am going to have to kiss that and make it better.” He relaxes again as She steps closer anticipating the feel of Her soft lips on his skin. The whips cuts him two more times. She walks in front of him to look into his face. His head is down from the heat of the sun beating down on his face. She gently pulls his head up to look into his eyes. She softly kisses his lips and then is gone again. He listens…..wondering where She went…..until he feels Her breath on his ear, “Do you want to feel My touch, boy?”

“Yes, Mistress,” he sighs.

Immediately he feels the sting of what feels like twenty whips….a cat o nine tails. Before he can even cry out it is striking again and again. He moans in rhythm with the whip and yanks against the chains. After twenty strokes She is back in front of him. She grabs his face and forces him to look into Her eyes. “Do you like My new toy, slut?”

“Yes, Ma’am,” he whimpers.

She laughs softly and goes back to the table getting another glass of cool water. She stands in front of him and takes a long sip of water. Then pressing Her lips to his She lets the water slowly trickle into his mouth. Over and over She dances this dance until the glass is gone. The She walks Her fingers up the chains and toys with the lock. His heart races.

She chuckles, “You don’t really think I am done with you, do you?” He groans a little but does not answer. Before he can tell where She is he feels the cane bite into the right side of his back. He tries to look to the right but She is already at the left landing the next strike. His head jerks to that side to see Her standing there with Her patented smirk. “Do you want more, boy?” He hesitates not sure of what the answer should be.

“Yes, Mistress….” he says slowly.

“Perfect,” she smiles. The next stroke is even harder. He cries out and turns his body away. After ten repetitions she steps in front of him and gives him a little kiss. He leans into Her trying to stay close to Her mouth with his own. She pulls away and waves one finger at him, “You have to earn that, precious.” She stalks behind him and says coldly, “Now, this is going to hurt you a lot more than it is going to hurt Me.”

His whole body tenses and he is squirming and trembling. Then Her hands are on him rubbing soothing aloe into his back. He relaxes into Her touch and She says in a calming voice, “Feel better, My sweet boy?” He shakes his head yes. She reaches up to unchain his hands and he sinks to the ground kissing Her feet. She runs Her hand lightly through his hair and murmurs, “That’s My good boy.” She crouches beside him and hands him a glass of water and he drinks it down fast.

She takes his hand and leads him into the house watching the chill bumps rise along his back as the air conditioner touches his heated skin. She pulls him into the bathroom and stands him in the shower. She turns on the cold water and washes him head to toe with a washcloth without saying a word. He shivers as She dries him. She takes him to the bedroom and tells him to lay down on the bed. She slips onto the bed beside him and softly runs Her hands over his chest. “You are such a good pet.”

“I am I happy please you, Ma’am,” he says softly.

“You do, baby. Do you want Me, little boy?” He nods….eyes clouding with desire. She leans closer and kisses him gently and then more passionately. She drags Her nails up his side and hy begins to shake. She slides Her leg slowly up over him to pin his waist to the bed. He automatically arches up to Her. She slips Her hand under him to run Her fingers over the marks on his back. He winces slightly and kisses Her harder. She wraps Herself around him and moves him on top of Her. He is watching Her eyes carefully and She smiles into him. He kisses Her lips lightly again and then trails kisses down Her neck and over Her collarbone…..down over Her breasts and lower down Her stomach occasionally glancing up to see Her nod slightly giving him permission to explore Her body. She allows him to take his time and savor his reward. Then She takes him by the hair and pulls his mouth back to Her heavenly lips. Melting him with Her kiss She guides him to grind into Her. He begins to tremble uncontrollably as this is the first time he has been allowed on top. He remains perfectly still until She smacks him lightly on the ass urging hym into motion. Faster and faster they move together. Breath coming harder. Muscles tensing. Until they are swept away by the intensity of the moment of soul touching soul. In the quiet moments after they drift into each other and quietly rest in each others arms.

You did make Me feel that way tonight and do fairly often. You do sometimes make Me wonder where your heart and mind are. You give Me a great deal of yourself, but sometimes hold back your honest feelings. You seem rather casual and detached about the whole thing at times. I know the motivation and I know you are being self sacrificing. I know you want Me to have the best. And I know you are not sure if you can be the best for Me. However, I will decide that…not you. I would never keep you out of pity. That would be unfair to us both. I only want you if it is right and if ti is right for you as well. Be more forthright with Me. I care for you a great deal as well….much more than you realize. Trust in that and Me.

mmmmmmm well done, boy. I got a very sexy very clear visual from that. now I want to fuck you until you beg… face slapping…..another yum thing….did not know you fantasized about such….slut boy. *smiles* Now here’s more for you to fantasize about….I will be closing My eyes and feeling you with Me as I cum to that very thought tonight.

*kissing you sweetly* good night, my precious pet. *blowing you a kiss*

It can be hard to resist sexual advances on a first date. Signals of attraction are very seductive, like lip-licking, head tossing and hot, lingering stares. People have trouble resisting such opportunistic temptation, especially if they are with a sizzling hot risk-taker who wants to get nasty. Is sex on the first date a common occurrence? Has sex replaced the kiss at the front door?

Is sex right on a first date? There’s no question of right or wrong in these cases. That’s a judgement which reflects society’s double standards on sex, particularly with regard to women.

I always used to think it was naughty to have sex on the first date because lots of guys are still in that double standards frame of mind where they think that if you put out too soon, you’re seen as too easy, that you must be a slut, and therefore they will have no respect for you and won’t want to see you again. But then sometimes you meet someone you’re so attracted to, and it feels like love at first sight, the chemistry is explosive and you know that even if you sleep with them that first night, it will make no difference because there’s such strong attraction bond and you’re obviously sooooo into each other.

The one and only time I slept with someone on a first date, I ended up married to the guy, but I don’t think it exists any more that men don’t take a woman seriously if she does. And as you get older, you don’t want to waste any time.

First dates are typically meant to get to know someone, to break the ice, so to speak, and to find out whether or not a second or third date is on the cards. First date etiquette, can mean nerves, trying too hard too impress, excess alcohol, and attempting your best at being a someone your date feels drawn to. Some of us can even be quite rusty in the dating dept, like starting to date again after a break up or divorce. Or dating for the wrong reasons, like trying to make an ex jealous. But lets face it, somewhere in the back of your mind when your sliding on your dior lip gloss and slipping into your Jimmy Shoo heels in preparation for date night, there is that burning question, will I or wont I?

I believe only the individual can answer that. Dating in the 21st century has evolved. We just do what feels right, dictated by our level of attraction, how comfy we are, and how they make us feel. There is no right or wrong in deciding to go all out or not. Everyone has their own personal reasons to have sex on the first date.

Sometimes people desire too but can be unsure, they have mixed questions going on in their head like:
If you have sex with someone on the first date you’ll later wonder if the person still likes you..
if they’ll call you again..
if they’ve been with other people and how many..
what type of future you’ll have..
and so on.

and I say big friggen woop.. so what if they dont call, so what if they dont like you, big deal how may others they think youve been with.. and if theres no repeat date, ohh geez im gonna cry.. like get over it already.. lifes too short to be thinking like that. Date sex is usually a mutual agreement, one in which was entered into with both parties consenting, so why all the hang ups? You cant win sometimes. Friends have told me theyve stopped dating girls after the first date coz of their refusal to have sex on the first date, others have said they wouldnt want to see a girl again if she did, so I just say do whatever feels right.

Some feel its better to wait, others want to start things off with a bang, (pun intended) either way, theres no right or wrong. What are your thoughts?

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angelxx

So if you really want to be happy you need a decent sense of reality..

But ’settling’ ooowah… not that dreaded word.. the word ’settling’ resounds with ‘less’ doesnt it? and who wants to be viewed as less right? we all have got some good and not so good habits.. the very nature of this life is that everything comes in polarities.. you know.. the up/downs.. in/outs.. male/female.. and everyone possesses the positive/negatives in one form or another.. you cannot avoid unpleasant characteristics.. it all makes up the type of people we are..

However, settling for less demeans the ’settlee’ and drags down the ’settler’ so viewing your partner for less is hardly going to enhance or improve your relationship..

In fact.. words are terribly important.. language is actually the one thing we use to define our experiences.. we name and describe our experiences in words.. we respond to our words with feelings.. and then we act out our feelings in our lives..

So since words are the foundations of our experiences.. it makes alot of sense to use them purposefully.. you cant very well go around saying.. "I feel awful".. "Nothing good ever happens to me" .. and expect to feel fabulous.. youve got to be conscious about what your saying and use the words you’d like to experience.. this is not some inspiring idea called ‘positive thinking’ .. no.. its just plain common sense..

Heres a good one.. "I need love".. ok.. we ALL need love.. its a basic human pre-requisite for blossoming.. but if we’ve got an "I need love" inhibit going on in the backs of our minds.. we are setting ourselves up for misery.. "I choose love".. "I desire love".. re-design your own statement and pay attention to the feeling it creates..

So if words have such an important bearing on our attitudes and experiences.. the way we think about our partners is significant.. to be honest i wouldn’t like to be with someone who ’settled’ for me.. the negative connocations are fashioned both ways right?.. the fact is when we dont think we’re worth much.. we dont deserve much.. so we are unlikely to attract a really warm mate..

I believe the ‘blues’ are really gifts wrapped in paper.. if we can peel the deceptive wrapper away.. underneath lies the gift… heres how language comes into it.. changing "Im sick of this" into "I deserve better".. your self talk changes so does your self image and self esteem.. you practically coach yourself into a new headspace.. instead of ’settling’ try ‘choosing’ it gives way to a much better feeling.. so hanging out for Mr Right isnt the smartest of moves.. the purpose of a healthy relationship is not nesassarily happiness but one of growth.. and while i agree that the ‘perfect’ partner is a myth.. i dont believe in giving up on our dreams either.. instead try immersing yourself with your partner until he is the ideal man of your dreams..

The whole point of a relationship is to hook up with someone who ‘gets’ you and is wonderful.. someone who values enough of the same things as you so that you are heading in the same direction.. usually when we do.. we dont notice the imperfections.. however that person will almost always value things directly opposite to what you do.. and thats where the growth comes into it..

I assume that if you were to sit down and make a list of all the pros and cons.. you’d find plenty to appreciate.. and also plenty of opportunity for growth.. so forget about the Mr Perfect concept.. its an illusion.. forget also about ’settling’ thats just demeaning to both of you.. instead consider purposively co-creating your relationship.. tackle the undesireables.. plunge into honesty and open communication.. take responsibility for being the person you want to be in your life.. instead of wishing and hoping he changes.. YOU change..

This sort of address can be quite messy and uncomfy and things dont nesassarily change overnight.. but when they do its amazing ! in the midst of all the wonderment we are always dealing with the next challenge.. but hey .. thats life.. its all about growth and development.. we are not robots manufactured in some factory waiting to be programmed.. we are living.. breathing.. human beings who deserve to be respected.. loved and challenged.. anything can be transformed.. from a lil irritating habit to a relationship breakdown.. so long as we are willing to be open .. good listeners and observers.. and appreciative of ourselves and our mates..

I believe we all choose the journey that offers us the most growth.. so dont settle.. instead.. embrace the paper parcels and start unwrapping..

ANGELXX

A word of caution: A relationship that is boring (adj. <dull, unexciting, flat, tedious>) are symptoms that it is about to fail… but it neednt spell the end.. with a lil conscious effort.. we can revive even the most stale partnerships..

Men and women in relationships share proven and effective perks they do to stay in love and keep their partners from looking the other way and possibly straying.

1. Send your woman or man roses on special occasions and when they least expect it… gone are the days that men are the only ones who send their partners flowers…. women have become creative and don’t mind sending their men roses too… men might be taken by surprise but they love it.

2. Whisper sweet nothings. Communicate! Saying how much you appreciate your partner, sharing kinky thoughts and complimenting your lover on what she/he does may seem small but these are important ways that keep the romance alive… stop saying them and she/he will think you don’t care.

3. Support each other. Partners who appreciate and support each other in their decisions and endeavors are most likely to last the longest.. be it in work or creativity or decision making.. showing support is vitally important.. it shows you are respectful and sincere.. and that goes a long way in improving and keeping a relationship fresh..

4. Don’t forget important dates. It may be a birthday, Valentines Day or Christmas… especially never forget your anniversary! Each time, treat your loved one special.. you dont even have to wait for that special date.. occasional cute surprizes are always nice.. and enjoy the responsiveness that follows !!

5. Always give each other a kiss. Actions speak louder than words! A kiss means more than a hug.. so kiss your partner goodbye before you walk out that door… a goodnight kiss is also very loving… and a passionate kiss even says a whole lot more.. especially when you grab her out of the blue and show some of that hot passion!!

6. Tell her you want her. It’s not enough to say you love her… sometimes.. words become so ordinary that women gauge from actions and not from what they hear… having a relationship is more than love… in fact, let’s be honest and say that it is not enough to love! Pick up your basket and put in not just love but also lust, excitement, and openness… yes, it is important that you make each other crazy… when you lose that interest, your better half would surely notice!

7. Change your routine once in a while. If one becomes predictable, there is nothing to expect. Surprise your partner and she will always remember you… make or do something special… do something unique… go somewhere that you haven’t gone before as a couple… if you have children, spend vacations with and without them… if you are tight on your budget, no worries… it doesn’t have to be expensive, just exciting and adventurous!

8. Hold hands. Whether be in public or at home watching television, hold hands… nothing beats a silent, warm physical connection.. plan a surprize at home and the minute he walks thru the door.. sit him down.. pour him a drink and get cozy !!.. talk about your day.. fun stuff.. offer him a relaxing body massage.. dim the lights.. and enjoy!!

9. Dress up and date. Pick up those sexy shoes, dress and lingerie when you date.. its all about confidence.. when you feel good about yourself.. you will seem sexier.. responsive and irrisistable !! a man, on the other hand, should not quit courting her or playing romantic even after ten or so years of marriage.

10. Share a secret that only your partner knows. It doesn’t matter what it is about… it may be something personal, sensitive or kinky… sharing codes is not only exciting but also builds a strong bond between you two… and he may be surprized to learn a thing or two about what you desire !!

These tips may not sound too easy especially when you are not used to them… but a change in how you treat your mate by applying some of these tips can be a big leap for you.. your relationship does not have to end in a tragedy… take these tips to heart and read up on more… and when you do, be prepared for a racy.. sexy adventure!

ANGELXX

The number one reason guys and girls have about lack of dating is fear of rejection. "I don’t really look that good." Or "Girls don’t like me." are quick replies defensively blurted out when asked why they have been single for a long time. Some even say "It’s my choice." and that could be partly true.. but nobody wants to live alone and miserable…we are social beings and we need life partners… and the truth is.. you arent going to attract anyone whilst you sit at home worrying.. keeping the avenues of work & play open invites opportunities.. remember fearing rejection is only a thought.. and we have the power to change our thoughts.. by being accepting, positive and staying true to ourselves.. i believe there is a special someone for all of us.. .

Guys are like girls… they are unlikely to come your way when you don’t look interested… and the thing is, they may mistake women’s action of shying away as "not interested" when she really means "You have to make the first move." So, get out of your shell and flaunt yourself… and if the guy you like doesn’t look your way, big deal.. it’s not the end of the world.. he probably does not deserve you.

So, girls you should consider being proactive about it….while this may be an interesting experiment for those who never tried it, I advise you to not overdo it… guys still stick to that machismo image and they definitely want some challenge… so play a lil hard to get.. be a lil flirty.. smile and have fun.. if you are friendly and easy to get along with, guys are drawn to you… once they know that you are open to them, they will step up if they are interested with you too. If not, then, you’d still enjoy having conversations with him as a friend.

Look good not just for him but for yourself. Guys adore women who are comfortable in their own skin. He will admire you for your confidence, your personal style and movements as much as his scent, charm and boyish ways sweep you off your feet… so, do a little work and pamper yourself… wear clothes that highlight your best features and complement your skin.. a favourite outfit of mine in the summertime is jeans with an elegant camisole.. and strappy sandals.. just perfect for a relaxing casual outing to the beach or the movies.. if you have someone in mind, know his favorite perfume and wear it.. your scent is your trademark.. a guy is usually going to remember you even weeks later by what you smelt like..

Some girls do research about his hobbies and interest and arm themselves by knowing a little about each. You don’t have to be an expert, just understand what he’s talking about…. if you understand him, you can join into his conversation and state your opinions about it… a guy is impressed with a woman who can listen and respond to what he has to say.

There are some men who prefer intelligent women or someone who could carry a good conversation of just about anything… while it is true that the male species initially gets attracted to physical looks, things might change 360 degrees when she opens her mouth… so, make sure you don’t have him turning away from you once you do… unless if you’re looking for a one night stand then that’s something you don’t have to worry…. but if you’re looking for a potential relationship then, you have to project yourself more than just a beauty.. sound and act self-reliant…. don’t sound like a rip off… let him know that you too can take charge if you want to.

So, you have worked on your looks, your style, your social skills and have tightened a few screws in your brain - you’re almost perfect… now, have fun and be adventurous as you move on everyday…. indulge yourself in activities that make you shine…. get out of your comfort zone and live life to the fullest…. in no time, you will be perceived as an easy going, fun, adventurous, independent woman. Now, that’s a package every guy will die for!

Online Dating Tips

Newsflash:

The girl of your dreams is not just hanging out in your neighborhood, but she is also just a click away!

Just like the way business surges its scope wider, tapping the world, the dating scheme is expanding into the net giving us limited opportunities to choose our man or woman. It’s easier to find a girlfriend now even if she lives in another state. Just a few chats and voice calls and there you are on your way to meet the woman of your dreams. Even interracial marriage is widely becoming more possible. More western men are marrying Asians. Asians are migrating to the west giving countries more ethnic variety.

But here you are shaking your head and saying that going online to get a date is an insane idea but it has worked for many couples. But why are you even reading this? So, it did cross your mind and if you and any of your friends are contemplating about giving it a taste test, let me give you a briefer.

Caution:

Where the trend is - is where business is. Scammers proliferate making individuals who are trying to find their love in a road less travelled (or is it still?) their victims. As more and more people traffic the net, more and more opportunists are on the outlook on who to take advantage of. So, get your ammos out and be careful!

Is net dating really just like regular dating? Well, maybe and maybe not. For one, you don’t need to worry about how you look every time you go out to date. Who cares if you are in your pajamas? You just have to get those teabags ready, a few cookies and you’re all set to sit on your computer and type away.

But before you start anything, be savvy, cautious and smart about how to go about it if you don’t want to end up being fooled or outwitted.

Here are a few guidelines:

Know who you’re talking to. Although some think that "love at first chat" can happen the way "love at first sight" does, you are actually posing yourself to the same, real dating dangers if you fail to get to know the person better. If you are truly interested to move further from your usual hi- ASL, U R Hot chats, devout time to ask questions and watch out for inconsistencies. When your lie radar fails you, listen to your instinct. If something doesn’t feel right, then chances are it isn’t!

Watch out for the red flags. Online - they are: people asking for money, someone you particularly really like but you feel like being sidestepped, someone always looking for sex all the time (admit that people get more naughty online and if they ask this more than they should, they probably are just talking to you to get it), your chat-mate is picture perfect, refuses to be or never been on cam (you might be talking to someone who’s pretending to be a model or someone who’s gay) Believe it or not, some people will express love even during your first conversation. Don’t fall into the trap. There are those who use their charm to get their way with things. If what you’re seeing and sensing is too good to be true, there’s a good percentage that who you’re talking to is a jerk!

Be honest about who you are. While it’s easy to lie and be who you want to be online, it all comes back to you when you like the one you are talking to and you have been lying all along! Be sincere but don’t give out too much information about you especially if you have not known the other person for a long time.

Be thoughtful. If you are fond of calling on the phone, giving her a visit at the office or at home or sending her flowers and cute little love notes if she lives a few blocks away from you, you can do the same online. Having a long distance relationship, in my opinion, takes more nurturing in the courtship phase just because you don’t really see or touch each other. So what do you have to do now? Don’t fret as your thoughtfulness can be communicated through emails, e-cards, voice messages and if you prefer to be more personal, the snail mail still works!

Patience makes your love go round. When your sweetie is thousands of miles away, love will never be enough. Patience will get you through against the currents of your relationship.

What I’m really saying is — don’t be stupid and go madly and unreasonably in love with someone you haven’t even met. While emotions may be hard to control, it doesn’t necessarily have to affect your brain. Be guarded; listen to what your mind has to say. If who-you-have-fished-out is worth your heart, your pure intentions will show and you both will endure whatever comes your way. Good luck!

Although countless of books and articles have been devoted to understanding men and women, most of us still struggle through the steps of relating to the opposite sex.

It’s not even rocket science. In fact, men and women social characteristics have been repeatedly defined with mighty simplicity but how come we are still at a loss towards perfecting our relationships? The dilemma lies in the plain existence of the differences between men and women… the same differences disallow them to mesh well.

How much do you know about women?.. I’d like to enumerate a few distinct "womanish" characteristics that men must understand and help relate better with her.

Here are a few intriguing high and lows about a woman:

She is sensitive and she appreciates a man who could lower his guard down for a moment… to her, that spells trust and sincerity.. tell her she looks good.. discover new ways to surprize her.. notice the little things she does.. avoid neing nasty.. theres nothing worst than hurting a womans feelings by being insensitive

She likes to cry. On the contrary, boys were taught not to…. crying for her means a cleansing of the soul, an expression of love, joy, anger and hurt. Sounds paradoxical, doesn’t it? .. that’s why men get confused over outbursts and hysteria…. the best thing for you to do is ask her what she really feels…

She is often indirect and because men are the opposite, this poses a major problem… men often catch themselves reading between the lines… and in certain situations, women really mean "Don’t go" after shes told you to "Go away!"… If this happens, don’t listen to the words you hear, look at her in the eye…. women can barely hide what’s inside.

She is instinctive. It’s their nature… they sense danger before it’s even there… they know you are fooling around when you are… admit it, when women feels all of a sudden insecure, she is so because she has sensed something… so, don’t go away mumbling "What did I do to make her think like that?" because most often that not, its her intuitive nature that has picked it up.

She constantly needs assurance. I wouldn’t call it insecurity.. make her happy by providing her constant approval and appreciation… women find joy in perfecting their relationships while men find it in the success of their career and performance…. once a woman feels inadequate about what she does and begins to question if she makes you content and satisfied, there’s a woman in distress!

She really believes that actions speak louder than words. Your little cheesy ways mean a lot to her… a loving kiss tells her more than even you saying "I love you"… phoning her from work to ask her how she is lets her know you care about her and that you are happy with her being in your life… send her a rose on an ordinary day and she will be exhilarated… and the best thing about it is she’ll pay you back tenfold!

She is all woman.. grrrr. It is in her ways, the way she talks or whispers, her laugh, her moves - all of these things you find irresistible…. she doesn’t even have to do something extra…. It’s just the way she is and the moment you stop noticing these simple things is a time of alarm for both of you!

She likes to talk. It is expression that frees her from life’s poison…. It is normal to hear women talking about things you care less about… but sharing her life with you means she is trusting you and making you a part of hers too.

She needs you to listen. Men can barely put up with this because they are not built to pause and absorb everything that happened in life…. but there are those who have developed a listening ear…. once in a while, I meet some of these men and I see how women are attracted to them just because of that.

Writing this aims to help men clear the confusion about dealing with women…. men could spend a hundred dates and still find to fully understand women difficult… whether we admit it or not, women are a puzzle, a complex being unfathomable despite the many first-hand researches devoted to them… It doesn’t help to teach them to act more simply because she is simply unique…. she wouldnt be a woman without these qualities… It is also the same summation of these characteristics towards complexity that makes her an undeniably awesome species.. get to know her today !!

3 Basic Clues that Your Guy Loves You

Don’t wait till he goes poof. If he’s really into you, you’d be identifying symptoms of him falling for you.

A guy can treat you like a queen day in day out, but it does not all guarantee that he is really interested. Men are quite skillful at relationships that it’s helpful if you know how to play his game. He could make you feel wonderful and leave you overwhelmed by your own conclusions that he is in love with you, yet, he’s just a jerk faking it.

Find out if he’s really into you or not through these three clues:

Watch Out for the ‘I love You’ Blues

Not just when he says it. A guy can be overwhelmed by his hormones and will tell you anything at the spur of the moment. But when you ask him when he is a bit more rational and he does not frown, that’s it! Also examine the time and situation when he says it. Does he still say it even when you’re fighting? Is it saying it with a "too" at the end? Is it the vodka talking? Is it when he wants to have sex with you? You know, guys are capable of giving foolish sweet talk just to get in your pants!

Is He Happy Alone With You?

It might be okay if he doesn’t say the magic words at all. Not all guys are comfortable with being vocal about their feelings. Some feel vulnerable and in less control so they reserve having to say it when they really mean it. That’s okay right as long as he takes it beyond words.

You know he loves you when he smiles most times and rarely frowns. You find him spending loads of alone time with you. It doesn’t matter what you’re doing - be it playing sports, watching DVDs on a lazy Saturday afternoon or just sleeping in bed with you. It’s cop-out if he often finds excuses not to be with instead of planning a getaway with you, if he does that, I’d say he’s losing his love grips then. If he goes out of his way to do things for you like seeing you everyday and cooking dinner for you, that’s a guy trying to impress a girl he really likes.

You’ve Got Yourself a Fans Club

If he constantly cheers for you and tells you how he loves your smile, your strut, the way you sway your hips or how you pull your hair back up, he adores you! And when he does, you like to keep it that way. Take his compliments seriously as these are reasons why he is attracted to you. Stage up a show of your assets to keep him aching for you. A love without lust will make it feel redundant and boring.

Knowing if he’s potential Mr. Right (someone who deserves you) is crucial so you won’t go wasting your time. If he doesn’t seem truly happy with you and just seems like he is faking love, don’t go about wondering too much about what went wrong. You probably already have done enough for him and if he’s still not getting the picture that you want more than what you’re getting, then he’s not worth it!

ANGELXX

Here are sure ways to end up single and alone again. Oh, I know you find it most intriguing, so sit back, read on and learn.

I have not shared this with anyone as of yet but now. And all of these I gather from a woman’s point of view and from the discussions of friends about their complaints about their boyfriends, lovers or husbands. Some of these, you might have already done and so it is quite easy to get an understanding of everything else that follows point after point.

Beware though as some of these tips REALLY WORK!! (which by the way, make them very effective tools to breaking up). .. So you might want to try some of these for your little experiment. I, however, do not guarantee that after you do so, she will talk to you again! So, take major precautions and I wish you good luck!

Stop sending her flowers and gifts.
Sleep right after you have sex.
Forget important dates such as your month-sary (whoever invented this?), anniversary and her birthday.
Check out other women when you’re with her.
Stop being affectionate.
Don’t satisfy her in bed.
Embarrass her or yourself to her friends or family.
Take her for granted.
Not saying I love you when you should.
Stop playing romantic.
Bad manners.
Not take care with your appearance.
Be sneaky.
Always running late.
Constantly lie, even after you’ve been caught out before.
Leave after she said a forceful “Go.”
Tell her to change
Becoming nasty and overly sarcastic.
Becoming a cheapskate.
Not giving her enough attention.
Flirt a lot with others.
Have an affair.
Stop making an effort to work on things.
Not spending time to get intimate with her.
Make it obvious that you don’t like her friends.
Become desperate and clingy.
Be over demanding.
Don’t listen to her.
Cut her off or not showing interested in her.
Disrespect her in any way.

Yes, I’m posting this to help you lose your woman.

I hear someone ask me “Are you insane? Why would I want to lose the woman I love?” and if that’s what I hear from you too, I think you get my whole point.

If your wish is of waking up one day without her.. Then go over the points above again. Know it by heart and try hard not to commit any of these must not’s. But of course you are human and it’s not difficult to fall into the claws of your flaws once again. But if you do, be sure to make it up later! It’s not easy, I know. And indeed, men are fairly right when they say that women are “high maintenance” in some way or another.

A first date is always fraught with uncertainities you are worried about making a good first impression, wondering what he ll think of you, and what planet you are from. Dont sit and wait for the phone to ring if you want to go out, its not uncommon that uncertainty can follow even the best date, especially if you wanted to make a great impression. Dont worry so much about how you look is another dating tip for women who can agonize over their appearance, if you feel comfortable then it shows. No one is perfect and every woman who agonizes over the tiniest flaw in her own appearance, will usually notice it isnt even remotely visible to their date.

Women put a lot of thought into their first date outfit — a lot. Heck, they probably even went out and bought a whole new ensemble for the occasion. Women always look into the eyes of men so guys try to let her see the inner you. Men are little boys that are shy at talking to women because they just don’t understand them so they are really the ones that are nervous so ladies understand that you got to make them feel at ease. Women, however, are not as forgiving; only 42% would attempt a repeat date in the same situation.

First date conversations are like any other dating conversations really only you tend to put more pressure on yourself because you feel like there’s more at stake if you don’t make a good first impression. You need to know that conversation is a critical part of getting second dates. First date conversations don’t have to feel like the last leg of a 5K marathon though. All it takes to make a conversation flow is a little practice and a few decent starters.

A word of warning girls.. NEVER EVER talk about your last boyfriend, fiancee or husband on the first date. Talking about anything emotionally intimate, such as why you broke up with the ex, is fatal. This sort of topic can trigger unaddressed resentment which will be apparent to your date and distract from the enjoyment both of you should be experiencing. Men immediately think one of two things if you talk about your ex during a date.

1) Shes comparing …
2) You have a bad track record.. ooops..

Don’t be swept off your feet by the excitement of the moment. Taking things slowly will keep you safe from being hurt if the guy is not really what you expected him to be.

Here are some fun things you can talk about…Talk about how a super model is WAY too skinny, or how Ozzy has killed all his brain cells and what a shame it is that he’s on TV broadcasting it to millions of viewers. Make fun of Mariah Carey for gaining weight, being put in the loony bin, and putting out a sucky movie. Talk about your likes, ambition, occupation, studies and home life on neutral ground. This will win you favor with your date and perhaps take the chat to the next level. Talking about the present is a great icebreaker for many reasons, not the least being you don’t want to start raking up the past with someone you hardly know.

Talk about things he’s probably never heard of before. Make him feel like he’s never met anyone else like you. Talk about what is on TV, an interesting article you read in the paper, a new clothing store that opened at the mall, a new music video.. anything! You should be able to talk about random meaningless stuff for hours. Talk about whatever you’re comfortable with. If you’re really a KKK member, talk about your last clan meeting!!!! LOL…

Talking about where you would like to travel can be a great way to get to know someone, and since you are only limited by your imagination, it doesnt matter if youve never travelled out of state. Talk about your present jobs and how happy or discontented you are with your career. Along that line you can also talk about your past schools and funny experiences you might want to share.

Ask him what you want to know. Be aware of whether he asks questions or if hes tuned out and is staring at your chest. Ask about their hobbies, work and also about their journey to the date. Always throw in some comments or follow-up questions to keep the conversation moving forward.

Listen more than you talk. Women like to talk, usually more than men, so ask some questions and then listen. Listening actively is a combination of body language and responses to your partner’s words that involves the listener in what the speaker is saying, without allowing the listener to take over the conversation. When you want your date to know that you are listening to him, use body language that shows that you are listening. Laughter, reactions, smiling, and recalling conversation are all signs you are into it!

Spending just twenty minutes brushing up on news and gossip can really make your conversation shine. Browse through a newspaper, cycle through your online news sources, or listen to the radio on your way home from work. Spending just twenty minutes brushing up on news and gossip can really make your conversation shine. Browse through a newspaper, cycle through your online news sources, or listen to the radio on your way home from work.

Asking the question, "If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?".can also be an excellent thermostat to measure a person’s self-confidence and humility. It can be refreshing to hear someone note their flaws, and can put you at ease by reminding you again that no one is perfect.. be prepared for hours of fun as you discover things in him that you probably feel the same over..

Ask him questions and get him talking about himself until you find something that you both do and enjoy. The right mix of conversation on a first date can actually become the foundation to something more.

Noticing first date etitiquette is particulary important as well.. someone who is adverse to trying new things at the table may be adverse to trying new things in other places (the bedroom being only one of them). Someone who says they would love to go snorkeling off a boat might not be the same person who loves to tour the inside of museums. Ask what kinds of fun things they do and how they’d like to spend their time off. Expect the unexpected to happen. The weather may change anytime and your favorite restaurant may close for renovations. Expect to have fun on your first dates. Be positive, optimistic, and focused on having a good time, even if your date is not what you’re looking for.

Remember, practice, practice, practice. You can practice these with friends, with work colleagues, with family. Remember, meeting a potential love interest for the first time should be a happy social occasion, a chance to begin getting to know someone, and to break the ice.

men are suckers for women who remember details…trust me. so have a good time and relax.

ANGELXX

Sexual pioneers such as Betty Dodson encouraged women to discover themselves through masturbation and Nancy Friday revealed the hitherto-unknown world of female sexual fantasy in her book My Secret Garden . Sex and erotica are increasingly developing from a niche product into a consumer article that is part of normal everyday life. A completely different self-image and change in values are emerging with the elimination of taboos linked to the subject and the social transition.

Sex and intimacy are not fads, theyre of major interest to everyone, regardless of what they say. Romance, intimacy, and sex have even taken Jesus to number one and a Tom Hanks film. Sex films became more hardcore, and lost a lot of charm in the Seventites.. nowadays erotica is more tasteful, subtle, and more in tune to the needs of women.

Erotic know how is seeped in history.. erotic literature, be it Victorian or contemporary, serves the same purpose. It provides an outlet for sexual feelings which certainly exist, but often cannot be overtly expressed. Erotic lesbian stories, once relegated to the back pages of seedier men’s magazines, now appear prominently in books released by feminist, romance and mainstream publishers. The tone and explicitness of stories vary, but the best ones emphasize characterization and plot in addition to steamy sex scenes.

Erotica should be the joyous embrace of living, a celebration of our sexuality . I have written many erotic stories and have explored the delectable kinkier side .. both on paper and in life.. and the richness of understanding sexuality has exposed and transformed me into a woman who knows what she wants..

Erotica writers have to consider many things a vanilla writer would never have to consider. Do you tell people what you do? erotica for me is an outlet to explore to indulge to express and to experience.. erotica writing is my future and my future looks wonderful.. i write with the pseudonym angelxx .. and shes provocative, passionate and peppery

ANGELXX

Women are high on emotional and sensitive plane while guys, on a first date, may be looking for a practical viewpoint which may flop while attracting women. This feature brushes up on some basic dating tips for guys to attract women. Women are seeking a man who is secure with himself, and is able to provide it to her consistently. These men reflect it with everything they do they always seem to be in control, they are sensitive to the needs of the moment, they rise to the occasion, they have a focused purpose in their life, and are comfortable in their own skin.

Women can be a fickle bunch. Some hold the line, some move the line, some don’t believe in any line. Women love a bit of chivalry every now and then. Do don’t forget to open the restaurant door when she enters. Women are not going to be attracted to guys that swarm them from the start. But at the same time they want somebody who is showing that they are confident and curteous.

Women always love men with great sense of humor. Thus, humor is a great dating tip for men. Women hate when men ask for their number, and then they never call. Once you do that, its pretty much over for you. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

Women love funny men. Women seeking dating tips are very often looking for answers on superficial things. Although women are not necessarily superficial themselves, a woman is more likely to be overly concerned with what to wear and what kind of hairstyle to sport. Women love charm, so long as it is natural, cool and unpretentious. Charm is good manners.

Women put a high value on communication that goes beyond words, and if you focus on impressing, talking and showing yourself in the best light, you may not be focusing on her. Eye contact assures her that she has your undivided attention – something every woman wants on a date. Women have an overblown reputation for being emotional, but we do tend to think we are more emotional than men. However, be careful not to offend us by disregarding our emotions. Women do not like to be treated like meat. That should be a given but sometimes men do not realize they are treating them like that.

Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place. Women like a challenge as much as men. Therefore, its not necessary to work hard to show her just how much you like her. Women notice your appearance, they judge it instantly, and unlike your friends, they can tell if something doesn’t match, is out of place, or is just plain ugly. Sometimes a woman will say that shoes are the most important thing in a man - yes, above eyes, smile, muscles, and anything else are your shoes! (this could be nerves!!) lol

Girls like to chat with men who are intelligent and quick-witted. Make sure you discuss about exciting topics with her. Girls don’t like a guy to come up to them and ask them out right away. Show some interest in her first. Don’t, for example, spend your date talking about your ex and your other dates, unless this is done humorously. Don’t be smarmy either and gush with empty compliments. Lots of men think they can handle themselves pretty well on a date - and lots of them would be wrong. Ive been there and done that…but have you really?..

Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer. Creating this air of mystery will keep the ‘ball in your court’ so you can decide whether this person is worth dating again or not. Most of all, enjoy the air of mystery you create and have fun with your dating.

Women are generally a whole lot deeper than men That’s the good news. However, it is about something you’re doing or not doing to attract women. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality. Women are the cleaner of the species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a mutt .

Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Asking her what her passions are outside of the workplace will give you a better idea of her personality, rather than her resume. Make sure to really listen to her response and ask open-ended questions to show youre interested in what shes saying.

Confident people attract other people. Confidence will always win the girl, although being arrogant won’t, so be careful not to cross the line. Confidence is about being comfortable with who you are and where you are going and is radiates from anyone who has it so work on yours and you’ll be guaranteed success!

Remember… there’s a difference between dating tips for men that will get you laid and dating tips for men that will get you love. These tips apply to the latter.. (but stay tuned for the raunchier ones soon!!).. lol

ANGELXX

its so funny how a personal experience can change your whole perception of how you view certain things you despised in the past.. and it almost makes you go crazy yourself when you compare .. thinking OMG how can it be?.. how did i get sucked into a pathetic loveless one-way situation?.. i MUST be going friggen nuts.. thing is.. it shocked me more than anything.. i spent hours thinking about how things came about and at which point i slipped.. the more i tried to find reason the more it dominated my thoughts.. so what i thought was doing me good was actually tearing me apart and driving me in deeper.. it felt vice like.. unescapable.. totally and utterly gripping me and never letting go…

i guess for me i was at a very vulnerable period in my life… that falling so hard was a combination of alot of factors.. self-detoxing off a VERY high dose of methadone that took months to stabilise.. and being the hopeless romantic that i am.. was forever craving intimacy.. a bold career move of quitting work and working from home didnt help.. and in some small way possibly for the learning and experience .. some people are very keen on picking up on others weaknesses.. we may even attract them towards us subconsciously ourselves.. even when we are not aware we have any to begin with.. and everything presumably for us starts to fall into place.. a kind word.. sharing a laugh.. deep flirting.. compliments.. being helpful.. sweet.. really starts to stirs us inside.. we feel drawn.. suddenly perked up.. alive.. and the feeling begins to grow.. without us keeping count and becoming aware of the precise moment.. it just happens..

alot of you outsiders to this would probably be thinking.. bullshit.. things dont just happen.. but i can assure you they do.. and not just in love and sex.. no.. it happens everywhere.. finanaces.. family.. job.. drugs and alcohol.. think of what the homeless.. the drug addict.. the divorcees all went thru before succumbing.. im sure they thought they had it all.. everything was rosy.. happy.. they had everything going for them.. then slowly.. bit by bit.. they started slipping.. totally unaware that their lives were about to fall apart around them.. i will give family/job as an example for instance.. a man unhappy in his job.. is pressurized at every turn.. deadlines.. responsibilities.. a mean cranky boss.. so he comes home.. drinks himself into oblivion every night.. or stays out late at the pub with his mates… his wife tries talking to him and he just doesnt wanna know.. his kids demand his attention.. but he is so stressed out he cant cope.. then everyday is a repeat.. eventually he is so worn out.. that his self esteem is shot to pieces.. his wife cant take it anymore.. and takes the kids and leaves.. his taking more and more sick leave from work because of his inability to cope.. and gets fired or has to leave because of medical reasons… his pending divorce.. is dragging him thru the cleaners.. causing him more and more stress.. he tries to numb the pain by drinking more.. and soon after.. the bank seizes his house.. and he is left wondering where it all went wrong?.. perhaps next time you see a homeless man sifting thru the garbage.. instead of standing there looking down at him and judging him.. try picturing him in a white collar and tie..

vulnerability.. thats the keyword here… we all get that way at some point in our lives.. no matter what the situation.. its ugly.. and can make us feel and do things we dont normally do.. but its all part and parcel of it.. one feeds the other.. self respect lies dormant.. when we are vulnerable.. and the slightest feel good is like honey.. we crave to feel again and it can make us fall into the most pathetic instances..

falling in love with the wrong person is one of them.. my experience of obsession was shocking.. depressing.. annihilating.. but at the same time in some twisted weird way.. also exciting.. perhaps because ive never been in an obsessive love situation ever in my life before.. it was all new to me.. every bit of it.. from the meeting to the flirting to the build up.. to the falling.. to riding the crest of the (imaginary) wave then finally to the crash.. obsession would literally eat me away.. i became consumed with thoughts of him.. constantly fantasising.. writing love letters i failed to send.. poems.. looking at guys that reminded me of him and thinking it was him.. following him everywhere.. picking up the phone to call and not being able to even dial the number.. but imagining i was.. and being ashamed about it all that i kept it to myself.. but it rises like a pressure cooker.. you can only keep it inside for a certain length of time.. then it just explodes.. my feelings for him in this way was to last more than a whole year.. off and on… during the off periods things would be great.. my life seemed to be getting back to some normalacy.. i dated other guys.. socialised with friends.. immersed myself with work.. but the spark never truly went out.. it still festered in the back of my mind.. and there was usually something around to remind me of him… which set me off again like a time bomb.. and the more times i allowed myself to succumb again.. the deeper my feelings would go since the last time.. which only made me think.. hey this really is something here.. why try to fight it?.. comon girl.. you know you love him.. MY GOD the endless battles i endured with that dreaded vulnerable voice in my brain.. it was torture on some days.. a mixture of love.. hate.. and eternal squabbling..

you do the craziest things when obsessed.. and i wasnt any different.. not content to have him out of my life after a massive fall out.. i was determined to keep him in it.. with subtle hints here and there of kind words.. a bit of humour.. and so many apologies.. and kept this up for a few months.. geez.. looking back at it now it all seemed so desperate and sad.. i mean.. how low could i go?.. the guy obviously doesnt have ANY feelings for me whatsoever.. gone were the days of our flirtatious ways.. the fun times.. our friendship had even turned nasty.. anyone in the right frame of mind would of said.. hey fuck you jerk.. who the fuck do you think you are?.. fuck off.. maybe the real me.. the me of 2 years ago would of said that.. and the words were there.. but somehow became stuck inside.. and were replaced with sorrys.. dont wanna lose you.. please.. thank you.. wow.. its almost as if i was saying .. hey.. kick me again asshole.. i deserve it.. and enjoy it cant you tell?..

hearing me say these words now is taking me back to a very lonely period of my life.. of being felt like i was a mistake.. a disposable pawn.. that my use was no longer required… he already had fulfilled his purpose.. but i can also identify they were the feelings i was manifesting for myself too.. because of my situation.. attracting back what i was projecting forth.. we can only take responsibilities for our own actions.. but also be aware the actions of others.. however.. we cannot control theirs.. just try to understand them.. and their reasons behind what they do..

its taken me endless tears.. sleepless nights.. countless diary entries.. and self-talk to finally see and pick myself up again.. lifes experiences sure teach you to be cautious.. and forces you to identify the weaknesses.. and act differently.. and time becomes your best friend.. time to heal.. think.. decide.. and to love yourself again.. we all can slip.. God knows ive done it so many times.. and maybe i will keep slipping.. but each time will become a lil easier.. we know what to do for next time.. and what to avoid.. sometimes too life can be a lil cruel and throw us in directions where we find ourselves lost and confused.. but eventually we all find the way home.. eventually..

obsession.. yes once i laughed at it.. and now have learnt to laugh at it again.. with eyes wide open.. and a new mindset.. i do still have itsy bitsy moments of doubt surfacing every now and then.. i have to be truly honest.. but its slowly dissipating as each day passes.. btw.. if you are all thinking to yourselves and wondering just who the fuck this guy was.. would it surprize you too much for me to say i havent even met him?.. no probably not.. but i think you would have guessed that already when you read this post..

ANGELXX

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Endorphins…  pure and simple peepz….

whether they are brought on by the physical pain actually inflicted or drawn out by deep memories buried deep in the subconscious…… it’s all about our brains’ processing of endorphins…. hormones…. hormones….  hormones

after being strung up with his arms in tightly pulled bondage….. his ankles were hitched to the legs of the bondage table….. he was hooded in a double layered hood of supple black leather for both of our purposes ….. for me so that I would cease to see him as a suffering being….. and for him to block out all unnecessary stimuli…… and the hood was effective on both points

I began by laying out all of my harshest implements….. and formulated my plan in my head…. it is not always beneficial to start with the "softest" pieces and work your way up to the most "extreme", especially when dealing with a pain pig or heavy masochist of any kind…… while a warmup of sorts is necessary…… it is easy to lose them psychologically if you start out too easily or lightly ….. they drop from their expectation of heavy pain very quickly ..

so with a heavy wooden paddle I delivered the first heavy blow…… it was enough to elicit a sharp cry from my slave….. and a shaking of the table…… I have to make him want it….. I have to make him beg for it…… this is what I feel at moments like this…… I’ve given him a taste of the sweet nectar of sensation and if he truly wants and can take more….. he must react…… he must sweat….. his muscles must shake….. I must be completely convinced that I am engaging his brain so that endorphins will be released….. another heavy blow after a few moments have passed….. and I can see the wave of pain that is slowly washing over him….. the glow of his ass being bright red and the heat that begins to rise all over his body….. my hand comes closer to his skin and moves within inches all over to test the heat…. not too much time shall pass before the next blow…..  and then the next…. more quickly now with less recovery time between direct hits….. the wood meeting his skin with sharp slaps over and over again

then as my arm tires from the heavy blows, I reach for my leather strap…… an implement that I know will break skin…. and that I know exactly how hard I must hit to do so….. while I know the limits of safety when dealing with blood and bodily fluids…..  I am quite keen to push that envelope and drawing blood does not make me squeamish in the slightest…… the strap comes down hard on his bright red ass in the sweet spot …… the space where the skin is brightest and the pain is the most intense even still ….. and the first droplets of blood appear…….. both my and my slaves’ pulse are racing now….. I can feel the moisture on my forehead with my effort and on his body from his ordeal……. I mention that blood has now been drawn and will continue and he breathes heavily….. almost exhausted as the leather meets his skin over and over again….. harder and faster building to a crescendo where pleasure and pain have truly mingled and are now completely indistinguishable…… where he can feel literally every single cell in his body…… his brain is on fire……. and he is sobbing uncontrollably….. not because of the pain nor because he wants it to stop……. but because he is being fully and overwhelmingly released ….. he has walked up to the edge of himself and has jumped off and is flying….

after such a flight…… a soft landing is necessary….   and the warmth of my hands on his boiling hot ass slowly bring him down to earth…. his arms and legs are released and he falls like a ragdoll onto the bondage table….. panting and entirely spent…… for over an hour he lays there….. deep inside his hood and his head….. until he is ready to rise and slowly merge back into the world…… the hood is removed and he dresses silently…… and doesn’t look back as he leaves …. as expected

angelxx

Enemas ….. absolutely necessary….   If you haven’t taken one ….and believe me I’ll know…  you will be given one….. not handed a puny little squeeze bottle and sent off to the bathroom….  you’ll be laid down on your side and take a whole bag before you begin the waddle of shame to the bathroom trying desperately to hold in the contents .. and hold it in you will … under threat of extreme degredation

now that you’re nice and clean…. we begin by placing you into position…. this varies wildly depending both on my mood and on the available surfaces….   but lets just say that you’re bent over my bondage horse…  legs spread wide

I cannot express the importance of lubricant here….. the choice of lube is up to me (depending on how sadistic I’m feeling…)….  and it’s time to rubber up with two pair of gloves….. which saves time once I remove the first pair…. see how kind I am ? …   making sure you get even more time to be ass fucked?

even for fistees….   there will always be some exploratory warmup…..  starting with my well-lubed rubber fingers…   I first insert one..  then two…. then three….. then I generally tuck in the thumb and go right for the knuckles… if you can take it that is…… I’ll turn my hand fully around to explore and to spread the lube…… if you’re a good boy I might even indulge in some prostate massage….. but you’ve got to be a really good boy for that

Once the opening has been prepared….  it’s time for the toys…… whether they’re strapped on or handheld…..  they’re coming at ya so you’d better not tense up…..   squeeling of course is encouraged

I’ll start with my smaller dildos and work my way up to my larger ones …. larger in both length and width of course …. and the intensity increases as we go along……   I’ll push you to that point when the pain becomes intense and you think you can’t take even one more thrust of my giant rubber cock….   but then you do because I’ve told you that you will….    that you have no choice but to be my bitch and take whatever I give you…

your personal cleanup however is up to you…… for that you will absolutely do the waddle of shame to begin the lube removal process in the bathroom… both from yourself and from my dildos.

What a good little slut you are.

angelxx

anyways..  we invited my gf over one day and she was there.. along with me and my bf also..  and we planned a great nite out.. my gf told me privately that she thought this "guy" was cute..  i didnt tell her the truth about her at this stage..  but wanted to see if she noticed and picked up on it herself..  and so the nite began..  we went out to a very classy pub and drank ourselves silly.. and had a fantastic nite… we looked like 2 couples out having a great nite..  and i could see my gf becoming very close and chatty with her..  which was good to see .. she’s alot like me.. friendly… easy going..  and gets along with almost everyone.. 

we finally made it home.. and continued the great evening there.. chatting… laughing..  drinking..  having a blast..  i sat with my bf while my gf sat on the other lounge with her..  they were flirting a lil and to me i didnt think it would get out of hand..  i was going to tell her the next day that the "guy" she was flirting with was really a girl..  but for now enjoyed the whole scenario..  and smiled to myself that noone knew the truth about her but for me and my bf..  and of course her…  its amazing what drinking can do.. loosen you the fuck up and make you do things you dont normally say or do..  and this is exactly what happened…

the moment it happened i had my back towards them kissing my bf and getting cozy with him.. when all of a sudden i heard my gf say.. "you taste like beer"..  WTF???..  i immediately turned around and seen them em in a deep French kiss.. tongues entwined and going for it passionately.. and this is a gf that is as straight and narrow as they come..  the only thing i thought of and crossed my mind was ohhhh noooo i definately cant tell her about who she really is now that this is happening.. i couldnt very well rush over and pull em apart either so it was going to be my lil secret or so i thought..  the only thing i can make sure of is they NEVER see each other again as i no my gf would be shocked to learn that she is really a girl..  damn the situations i get myself in..  secretly i was enjoying it in sum twisted way..  thru my intoxication i actually encouraged them on..  lucky she didnt go for the crotch area or else i wouldnt of heard the end of her high pitched screams that nite.. so after they left that nite.. i confronted my bf and made him swear that we will keep this to ourselves and not say anything to my gf.. and he agreed..  and understood the implications if it did get out.. 

a few weeks later.. the secret safe so far..  with my gf over chatting to my bf … while i was having one  our long chatting sessions on the phone with my lesbian friend… my bf was starting to get jealous..  i was in the other room.. and i didnt hear what was going on.. but he confessed to my gf that "he" was really a "she"..  omg..  as soon as i got off the phone.. my gf had turned pale..  got up and gathered her stuff and went to leave without any explaination.. i freaked out and asked what was up?.. why was she leaving so fast without even saying bye?.. and thats when my bf told me he told her finally..  i took one long look at him then at my gf..  and told her to sit and let me explain..  this wasnt a set up like she thought and kept saying over and over..  she was distraught and kept repeating that she wasnt a lesbian and that we had this planned all along..  which wasnt true..  i reacted in anger initially and told her its not my problem that you flirted heavily and that you cant handle your drinking..  and for her info i was going to tell her EVERYTHING the very next day.. but because of what happened i couldnt..  i was stuck in a corner..  it was going to be my dirty lil secret i would have to deal and live with .. as long as you didnt no about it .. i felt i was protecting you from that i told her..  she kept saying how could you both..  my bf just stood there happy with what his outburst achieved..  i turned to him and said.. thanks for breaking our agreement dickhead..  youve betrayed me nicely not only my gf but me too.. and if me and my gf ever fall out because of it i wont ever forgive you.. 

he said get over it.. and she had the rite to no..  and i shouldnt be playing ppl like that..  playing ppl like what i said?.. screaming at him.. i was furious… i didnt intend for any of this to happen between them.. it was mainly going to be a great nite out between friends.. and thats all.. how was i to no that she would end up all over him??… 

after all this initial drama.. my gf didnt speak to me for months..  and i was upset about that..  i kept going over the events in my head and trying to see if i had a valid point or if i was just a scheming bitch that wanted to get ppl in situations that i wanted to see em in..  not to hurt them in any way but just to see if i could get away with it.. i came to the conclusion that yes i did have a part to play in it..  but its a 2 way street too.. if nuthing happened between them she was going to no all about it the next day.. but because of the way things turned out.. i couldnt say anything.. and it tore at me everyday i kept it inside..  but it was for the best.. i just no she would be freaking rite out if she found out.. but she did find out thanks to dickbrain opening his mouth.. and i never forgave him for it…. eventually though.. she did forgive me.. and we became close buddies again…  i hope my bf is silently suffering because of his actions…  true friendships always prevail regardless of the mistakes we make.. we arent perfect.. none of us..  and she realised this.. and took sum responsiblities for her actions in the end..  we are closer than ever these days and we ALWAYS tell each other stuff now.. and not hiding it  .. thats the way things should be like between friends… no secrets from each other… 

as far as my bf goes..  he never even apologised for his outburst..  and even my gf tells me the way it came out from him was only out of spite..  he was jealous and wanted to hurt you and me.. the one person you cared about..  but he didnt succeed like he thought he did..  damn ppl that betray confidence.. i absolutely think they are the lowest form of scum alive…  i think the saying should be changed to a scret is no longer a secret if it is shared by more than 1 person..  YOURSELF!!  this has taught me to never reveal close personal stuff any longer to anyone.. 

if you have any norty confessions i would love to hear them..  you can always change the names of the innocent (or guilty) to protect them if you like..  stay tuned for more genuine norty confessions as we go along..   i will be revealing what situations my bf placed me in.. impossible situations that made me react accordingly..  with violence too in sum of em..  like the time i ripped the phone outta the wall and smashed it across his back..  and got a violent reaction in return.. but made me just more angry and the more he fought with me the more i inflicted pain rite where it hurted too..  seeing him doubled over in agony on the floor.. and spitting on him gave me great satisfaction.. and you will be the judge of if he deserved it or not..  so stay tuned for that beauty comin up..  and also of the time he found a  phone no of a guy in my car and the situation that created ..  all coming very soon so keep eyes and ears peeled to this space.. 

all my love,
angelxx

it was 1988 bicentannary year when we met.. i was only 22 at the time and he was 52.. but quite goodlooking and fit for his age and he looked and acted years younger.. we met at work.. i was one of the office girls and he was a driving instructor..  and the nature of the job meant we spoke and had contact constantly..  i got on with everyone there but one other driver i felt didnt like me..  he was always berreting me.. putting me down and he would always jump to my defense telling him to lay off and leave me alone..  i guess i was at a very vulnerable period of my life too when we met.. however.. we did seem to get on and hit it off immediately..  he was charming.. cheeky.. had a great sense of humour being irish..  and very tall with lady killer attitude about him… i was infactuated at first.. very impressed and respected him alot.. and we got on well…   

as the weeks wore on..  we began to flirt harmlessly..  he would drop into the office and have lunch with me instead of staying out.. and he would be complimenting me often..  he started to open up and tell me he has been in a loveless and sexless marriage for 18 years and no matter what he tries she just wont warm up to him..  i am usually wery of ppl who tell me stories of their marriages coz i now theres always 2 sides to every story.. and i like to keep an open view …  so with that in mind.. i continued to listen and watch..  i could sense he was becoming closer and trusting me more and more.. which i liked.. 

there was an upcoming night out planned for one of the office staff who was retiring and he invited me to this as his companion for the night..  i accepted but brought along my gf for company as well and we had a brilliant night..  dropping off my gf first.. i then drove him to his car and farewelled him goodnight..  he started to pull me closer and tell me he likes me and he cant deny it anymore.. we sat in my car for hours after that talking and him being very candid and honest.. hugging.. kissing..  and more talking..  the next day at work everyone was out and suddenly he rocked up and things just got outta hand..  he grabbed me and pushed me against the wall touching me everywhere kissing me hard..  telling me his gonna have me and theres nothing i can do about it..  he continued kissing me and reached for my pussy but i slapped his hand away.. the passion was so intense that i had to try to stop this immediately before anyone came in and seen us.. 

we continued with our chats and flirting alot..  he use to come visit me at my night job i held.. and we would hang out..  we really had sum fun times … and it was hard going back home and living the life i was..  wanting so much to be with him all the time..  my ex and i finally divorced and he moved out..   living seperate lives under the same roof for 3 years was stressful.. and i was glad that we finally did part for good..  our troubles were mounting and it was for the best.. 

this however created a opportunity for Dave to be with me more.. i respected my husband and didnt bring him anywhere near our home..  or even have sex with him yet for that matter..  (no i never ever cheated on my ex..  working i considered NOT to be cheating… )..  we spent every avail moment being together..  always deep in conversation and flirting..  he would be very protective of me..  and i felt safe being with him.. he treated me as a daughter more than a potential lover.. but he did have a strong desire to be with me sexually too..  i was turned on by this..  an experienced father figure.. that looks out for me and advises me ..  the sex part came soon enuff thou..  booking a motel one nite with lots of lacy lingerie to tease him with and high heels..  i had the evening planned to a tee..  we were both nervous when alone together finally ..  him more..  as he didnt no if i was thinking of him in a dirty vulgar way being with sumone 30 years younger than himself..  i told him to relax..  and we spent the night making love ..  he was so sweet but also had a very dominating side which came out alot.. although he was trying his best to keep in check..  i gave in to him and we shared a night of hot fantasies..  dressing up for him and have him take me in the most domineering way..  he went down and took me onto his mouth and spent hours making me cum again and again..  he loved it when i returned the favour..  bigger than average he was a challenge to take deep down but i slowly managed it..  his favourite possie was doggie..  taking me forecfully from behind..  he pounded into me..   moaning so loud grabbing my hips and slamming me..  then he would pull out and blow all over my ass..  not wanting to get me pregnant..    i loved it

not long after we had a big fight..  he told me he wanted to leave his wife for me..  ohhhh nooooo..  please dont do that i told him.. i dont wanna be the other woman the one that is responsible for the break up of marriages.. but he wouldnt listen..  he wanted me so bad..  he took me out and bought me a solitare diamond ring and slipped it on my finger rite there and then in the jewellers..  saying i belong to him now..   omg..  i burst into tears..  i didnt want it this way..  but he was insisting and i felt as i was in a daze..  listening and following his every word.. as if in a trance..   the romance and his urgency was making me heady..  i felt sensations ive never experienced before..  i felt so wanted… loved..  cared for..  cozy…  warm.. confused..  mixed up..  all at the same time..   i have never been swept off my feet like this ever in my life up till then.. 

then the big day came..  he confessed all to his wife and divided up the house and contents..  she actually had a breakdown and was admitted to hospital and refused to let him go..  i kept telling him he should stay with her.. now more than ever.. se needs you.. but he wouldnt..  that night we had sex while his wife was lying in hospital..  and i felt so guilty..  nevertheless our life together began.. 

he continued to work as a driving instructor and i worked in the office..  we told noone of our romance and of him moving in.. but his wife came by one day and headed straight for me..  pulling my hair and scratching my eyes out..  they had to hold her back and restrain her..  she made my face bleed from all her fury..  and she screamed abuse at me..  shocked at how young i was and feeling so vulnerable ..  but so pent up with hatred at the same time..  she wanted to tear me apart..  when she seen she couldnt get to me she tried another tactic..  standing in the middle of the room and screaming that i was the other woman..  the slut that has seduced her husband and tore him away from his family..  omg..  i was reduced to tears..  from suddenly being our lil secret the whole world now knew thanks to this deranged woman who didnt even know me..   spilling all..   they drove her home and called Dave and told him what happened..  he came to see me first and asked if i was ok.. he seen my face and  i told him what happened..  he then went to see her and said not to pull a stunt like that again..  it was over and to just accept it..  she said she was gonna make our lives hell.. it was far from over..  that afternoon i was called into the managers office and asked to explain the story.. i felt like it was none of their biz but outta respect i told em the truth.. that Dave is now living with me and we are a  couple..  i was given my marching orders that day..  and although Dave protested strongly..  they decided it was for the best to keep the peace.. 

life went on..  i was bitter about losing my job over my situation..  but i found another..  we both worked hard and played hard equally.. he introduced me to his brother and his wife.. and i even met his mom when he flew her out to spend time with us from Ireland.. she was so sweet.. and we spent alot of time going over pics and recalling stories from their wild days..  it was fun being with her and listening to all i became facsinated and wanted to know every lil thing..  and she didnt hold back..  she thought i was a lil young but she didnt mind.. as long as we loved each other what was wrong?.. age was just a no she said..   and dont listen at what others say or think about you.. just stick with each other and do what feels is rite..  what a wonderful woman.. 

we had a great life together..  he would buy me things… cars.. jewellry..  clothes.. pay all the bills..  allow me to go out with my sis and gf’s.. occasionally he would come along too but the thing i noticed everytime we would be out..  he never wanted to hold my hand or be affectionate..  and this got to me.. everytime i asked him what was wrong by doing that.. he use to reply that everyone might think we are father-daughter instead of a couple.. i told him well lets show em we are a couple by holding hands at least..  but he wasnt comforable with it..  and i felt a lil rejected by that..  this was brought on by a situation when a mechanic was called to work on my car at our place and he was home in between jobs and he referred to him as "your dad" gave me instructions to fix your car..blah blah blah..  and he overheard this.. and it made him feel selfconscious.. even though i spoke up in a rather large tone and said no he isnt my dad he is my bf.. after this he would be a lil uncomfortable being seen in public with me.. 

we lasted 3 years together before seperating for a year then coming back together for a final year..   he was very much still in love with me and wanted me badly..  and was devestated that we split..  i threw him out because i was sikk of him treating me like a lil girl..  i felt i didnt have any say in anything..  he made all the decisions for us…  he would advise me on what to do..  guide me..  buy me things..  look after me.. protect me..  we would have amazing sex.. every nite..  but i felt incomplete..  i wanted more..  but he couldnt understand that..  and i threw him out..  but regretted it so much at first..  that nite i drank a whole bottle almost of that green ginger wine all to myself and then got in my car and drove to find him..  i drove around aimlessly like a maniac.. and i eventually found him in a boarding house just out of the local area and begged him to come home.. i felt lost without him..  but he was stubborn and refused..  but he did visit me everyday..  coming over to give me money and have sex with me..  that was the one thing we induged in heavily..  and he was becoming even more perverted..  he use to love spanking me..  and using dildos on me..  fucking me hard..  making me scream..  he would lift me onto the kitchen table and hoist my legs over his shoulder and ram me hard and fast..  then blow all over me…  he would want me to put on a uniform and pigtails with socks and call him daddy as he was forcing his huge cock into my ass..  he wanted i act like a dirty bitch and tell him how norty ive been..  while he moaned loud telling me my skanky ass was so tight..  and spanking by butt cheeks so hard..  he would cum so hard..  his breathing always use to give him away just as he was about to cum..  then he’d roar so loud..   forcing me to swallow every drop as he pulled my hair..  yes he was very kinky.. and it turned me on..  but also made me frustrated as i couldnt be dominate with him..  i wanted to experiement further but he wouldnt hear of it.. so like that we continued..

that year spent apart really allowed me to do sum deeper thinking and came up with alot of answers..  realising our relationship was loosely based on him not being satisfied in him marrage.. and me for god no’s what..  maybe i just love the chase and the romance of it all..  and crave intimacy..  i dont no..  but nevertheless we did come together for the wrong reasons..  and this was even more apparent in our final year together…  when the coming together attitude was "lets see if this can work"…  i was left wanting more than what he could give me.. and it was the trigger of a lot of norty things i did behind his back..  to me we were doomed..  it was only a matter of time that he will finally see this too..  i began working behind his back..  and started a torrid affair with the pimp around the same time..  have you read all about this in my Diary of a Working Girl part 3?..  i explain it all in more detail there so make sure you check it out.. 

in the end we did finally both wake up and smell the strong coffee..  and split mutually.. and remained friends.. i was allowed to keep all his gifts..  including the car..  he was such a sweetee.. and i will never forget him.. we had sum really great times..  but the one thing i will say is this..  for those involved with or think they are in love with an older guy..  just take your time and think about things..  talk it over and come to a mutual understanding of how you both want to live your lives together..  and dont let him rule it..  yes he may be the older more experienced between you but you do also have a rite to live and decide on how you want to live your life too..  and he should understand and respect this.. communication is the key girls..  and make sure you are open and honest about what you expect and what you want..  aside form that enjoy your time together and dont stop having fun..  ohh and if he wont hold your hand while out and about..  let him no about how that makes u feel..  and tell him everyone does it.. and he should be feeling proud and honoured that a guy like him is in a position like he is..  with a much younger woman..  he should be showing you off not trying to hide the fact..  my god other guys his age would KILL to be in his shoes..  to be with a woman 30 years their junior..  KILL MAIM AND MUTILATE..  so remind him gently of this fact next time he pulls his hand away..  and enjoy the powertrip.. 

angelxx

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the headfuck journey was so thrilling..  and one which i craved..  to watch a guy submit..  taking him out of the real world and into my fantasy trip for a few hours and putting him back was exillerating..  and i became the center of their world..  an addiction.. a high..  almost goddess like..  and they needed me..  i began advertising for more subs.. i loved a challenge..  most of my slaves were married corporate guys that held down the best high ranking jobs with great responsibilities..  and they loved coming to me for the opposite..  to be owned and exploited..  and humiliated..  i would make em call me mistress even on the phone..  the powertrip was such an aphrodisiac.. 

it was hard to maintain balance at times for me..  away from work i was running my home..  mingling with family and friends and leading a double life..  and had to appear normal..  alot of my mistress qualities use to come out when dealing with ppl.. i would be demanding and bossy.. and a total bitch ..  and it didnt do me any favours much..  but deep down dark angel was a part of me..  she was selfish and greedy.. and wanted .. and needed..  and usually got..  however.. i also needed time out for me.. and my slaves were put on hold ..  i went on trips away north or abroad at the end of every year.. as my treat..  i bought new furniture..   electrical equipment.. clothes.. perfumes..  i got my hair done every week.. my nails..  facials.. massages..   took friends out for dinner..  i was very much into dancing till dawn and would love making my bf jealous as i left him on one corner of the room while i watched him watch me with others..  he would be peeved off but i always had an answer for everything..  and he couldnt get enuff..  he became intrigued and obessessed with me..  i would take him to a gay club and watch all the gorgeous shemales and whisper in his ear would he love to fuck one? …  and would he let me watch?.. i asked him if he ever had anal with a guy and to tell me all about it.. rite there and then……   i would be hugging him and eyeing a guy over his shoulder  and maintain eye contact..  while listening to him reveal his secret in my ear and flirt with my sexy bedroom eyes..  kissing my bf and making sure he was watching me do it..  do i sound like a bitch to you baby?.. GOOD..  i am..  a bitch with a heart of gold..  that draws others towards me..  and all the sensory deprivation that came with mindfucking..  actually enhanced my ability to be perceptive ..  i could easily read what a person is all about  when talking and spending time..  and i was usually rite..   i dont say this to brag..  but speak the truth.. i sense things before they happen sumtimes.. and can come out with exactly what the other person is about to say..  ive been in situations where everything i witness has played first in my mind..  before i watch it unfold..  the vibes are very strong.. when i feel that.. and my sixth sense is what i allow my trust and instinct to be based on..  and guide me..  ive had numerous experiences to believe otherwise..  yes the mind does work in myterious ways.. and its been sumthing ive been blessed with since a very young age..  hence my facsination with mindgames…  

the great thing about fucking with their head was it was well paid and it didnt require me fucking them…  i was in control and they came only when i wanted them too..  usually coming while wanking in the shower after the session ended…. if i was in the mood i would watch if not i left the room..  they were my slaves to do with as i pleased..  and were treated as such..  they made up the majority of my clientele base..  id say 70% the rest of the 30% were regulars that payed me to fuck..  i would occasionally crave these customers to remind me of why i began working in the first place..  i was a hot slut for them and did comply with most requests..  however more and more i did eventually twist my way and they became subservent to me..  pleasing me..  and worshipping my butt..   i would instruct them what i liked and what to do..  whatever my mood dictated..  i would want them to caress and stroke it for hours..  use a feather to create the most exquisite pleasure.. sit on them and rub their face in it..  kiss it everywhere..  talk to it….  finger it and get high on its taste and smell…  occasionally if my ass slaves pleased me enuff i allowed them to rub their cock between my crack till they came..   or lick it till i did..  they would wash it and rub lotion into it..  massage it….   play with it..  stick their nose between and sniff it..  and tell me how much they love it..  yes i did enjoy my ass slaves …  it was a fetish i indulge in even to this day..   all my bf’s were ass lovers..  and i loved masturbating and fingering my ass… or rubbing it…  when they were fucking me..  i have lots of private vids of me getting off fucking my tight ring and screaming as i cum…  i love using dildos and fingers and rubbing my swollen clit at the same time..  make sure you all read about my double ring anal adventure  if you havent done so already.. and discover my surprize pleasure when i stuck my vibrator in all the way..  ..  one of my ass slaves was a sweet old school italian guy that wanted me to be his gf..  he use to tell me he loved me everytime he saw me..  .. he would pay me for a hour to kiss my ass endlessly..  he would  tip me well give me his no and address and tell me to cum round..  and he pressured me on going on a date.. which i eventually gave into..  but regretted so much at the end of the evening..  one thing i cant stand is pppl with dutch courage brought on by drinking excessively..  it looks really ugly and it makes em look like a total dick..  read about my dud date with this guy..  i had a terrible time and ended up cutting it short and going home.. 

i was offered to manage a place for a wonderful lady in my local area towards the end.. this was a small private situation with only 3 girls..  she was running her main place and didnt have the time to be there so we struck up a deal..  i would pay her a weekly cut of 20% and i would keep the rest..  i would cover the expenses and what remained was for me..i agreed immediately..  and saw the fantastic potential .. we were always extremely busy..  i straight away fired 2 girls..  as they didnt comply with my rules..  and asked the madam if she could lend me 2 more of hers.. we made a deal that girls can rotate between the two places.. which suited me fine..  so all up i was content with 3..  well we only had 3 rooms also so 3 was the limit.. i had a great mix of girls..  i wanted them busty..  curvy..   and hot looking..  dressing up classy with immaculant presentation always..  and we charged accordingly…   guys love it when its tiny and intimate..  and the choices are limited but good quality.. all of my girls listened to what i told them..  i gave them advice on what to wear.. how to behave..  and what techniques to use on them..  sum requests were for me to enter and watch em fuck..  and i would be paid for doing so..  my girls did everything.. and i made sure none of it was without protection.. we didnt want a bad reputation and get on the health depts bad books..  so everyone was respectful and we had a wonderful time working together..  i even ran into alot of my clientele there..  and they were surprized i was behind the desk..  i would see em only if all the girls were busy..  and only for a quick 15 mins..  as i couldnt leave the desk and fones unattended..  so the money from management and working on the side was very lucrative.. 

i think i would still be a hooker today if it wasnt for me fracturing my knee..  i managed to smash my knee to pieces and fully rip away the tendon during a fall on NYE nite..  requiring 3 operations and painful physio..    even to this day its still sore and am very limited in what i can do.. i cant fully bend it..  kneel on it..  i cant run..  squat..  or put any heavy pressure on it..   stairs are painful … and winter time always serves to remind me when it comes around..  so i had to eventually give it away..  i also became very self conscious about wearing short skirts coz of my 15 cm long scar..  i did try going back to work after i recovered but it wasnt the same and it was just too painful to do alot of things..  like doggie and straddle them..  i did however manage to work for another year..  but i was sure it was me who refractured it again at that time..  needing the 2nd of 3 operations to repair..  they discovered the fracture site had reopened and i needed a bone graft taken from my hip to seal it and it was all held together by metal wires.. which were finally removed during the last operation..   the last few years if my worikng life were all done for the wrong reasons..  involved with a guy that was forbidden to ever touch in the first place.. and my escalating drug habit..  made it a chore to go to..  but it was a catch 22 situation..  i needed the money to buy drugs..  and working provided it.. if i didnt work i would hang out..  so i needed to work..  i was so ahamed of myself that i would stop seeing all my wonderful clients..  and became more and more withdrawn..  then came the fall and fracture..  and it was as if it was as sign to quit..  which i did..  my life did turn around for the better though..  i quit drugs.. and went on a program..  (eventualy even quitting that in April 2007)..  and i went back to school and studied to become a PI..  and gained my licence.. i also did training as a drug counsellor and referrals.. which i do still..  im a much better person these days..  and have learnt so much about ppl and life..  my working years will always be a part of me.. but i now can at least let that part of my life rest.. i had a great time..  and if i had my life over again i wouldnt change a thing..  it all makes up who i am today..  sumtimes i have an urge to do it again.. privately like i use to..  i dream of it sumtimes..   but so far havent acted yet..   i would love to manage a few girls though so you never no..   escorting of course..  like take bookings for em for a slice of the action..  im quite experienced in all aspects so i know how to run it successfully..  for now im quite content in writing and recording erotica and learning being an internet marketer..  i do occasionally fill in now and then in a B2B massage place.. which ive been doing for nearly 3 years..   im always thinking of new ideas..  and ways to do em.. .. so maybe what i wanna do can be done online..  ive seen a few sites that you can make bookings with ladies..  so anything is possible..     erotica still is my passion and i think will always be.. i just love it..  it really truely does stir my mind..  not to mention a few other places..  LOL

angelxx